The only real self is the one that knows it's created:
Let's take the case that we are no one way. Sure, there are traits, qualities that naturally arise in us, impulses we've had our whole lives, ways of being that seem native to who we are - and yes! All of this exists fully and wholly. But the thing is, it's up to us to give power to the way of being. We might have very little control over the circumstances, we do have a say in how we respond to them - how we want to be in the face of something unpleasant. This is not easy work, but it is the work of life. When we can find our self expression in a journey of development like this, we are free.